In today’s fast-paced world, children often find themselves navigating a whirlwind of emotions and pressures, from academic challenges to social dynamics. As they grapple with feelings of overwhelm, the words of their parents can have a profound impact. According to the experts at Parents.com, here are five positive things that parents can do to help their children who are overwhelmed.
Validate their feelings
Jaclyn Shlisky, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist who works with children in Boca Raton, Florida, suggests that the first thing that parents should tell their children that their feelings, whatever they are are valid.
“Before you get to the good, acknowledge what it is that’s making your child feel down and validate their feeling.” Dr. Shlisky also suggests that parents should delve deeper into negativity but, try to refrain from saying “that’s OK” or “it’s OK.” Saying “that’s OK” can make your child feel like their feelings and thoughts don’t matter.
Let them know that there is a “silver lining”
Dr. Shlisky recommends that parents point out the silver linings. No matter how bad something may seem at the moment, there is always a “silver lining” that can be found.
“It’s important that your little ones have something new to look forward to almost every day.”
By helping them find the “silver lining” you are helping them overcome whatever the disappointment may be and move forward.
Let them know that it is okay to try again.
If children fail at something that really want to do well in, it is okay to let them know that they can try again.
“When your child is struggling with an assignment, it’s helpful to say something like, ‘You feel like you’re not good at this yet because you haven’t practiced, but the more you practice, the better and better you will get,'” Dr. Shlisky says.
Aliyah said it best: “If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again.”
Dr. Shlisky recommends that once your children do reach that goal that they are going after, a little reward is definitely in order.
Let children know that, “you can be brave” by modeling your behavior
Stepping outside of ones comfort zone can be overwhelming and nerve-wrecking for anyone of any age, especially children. Dr. Shlisky recommends that you lead by example and let your children know that they “can be brave” by watching you be brave. Remember, children are more apt to repeat a behavior that they witness their parents engage in.
“When the moments happen when your character is tested in front of your child, show them the strength you possess to step out of your own comfort zone—you’ll be building a sense of togetherness that they’ll pick up on.”
Encourage children to “find their calm”
When you are overwhelmed and frustrated, finding your centering calm is germane to moving forward. Teach children to deal with frustration in a positive and productive way. Dr. Shlisky suggests that parents should acknowledge their children’s frustration which will help get to the core of what’s upsetting them. Help children name their emotion and brainstorm ways to overcome it and move forward.
By adding these tips to your parenting toolbox, parents will be able to help their overwhelmed children feel seen, valued, and capable of overcoming challenges. These positive interactions not only build resilience but also foster a strong emotional bond, creating a safe space for children to express themselves, while nurturing children’s self-esteem and mental well-being.
By choosing positivity, we equip our children with the tools that they need to navigate life’s obstacles with confidence and grace, ultimately shaping a brighter future for them.
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