Family comes first for Boris Kodjoe, who has two kids with wife Nicole Ari Parker. Boris says that though he is busy with his television show Station 19 and several other projects, his family is his priority.
âYou know how you always have 20 balls in the air, juggling? Iâm willing to let 10 of them drop on the floor for a while if I have to. My priority is my family and raising my kids the right way,â he said. âEverything else is secondary.â
Boris and his wife have been married for thirteen years and have learned to nurture their relationship.
âA lot of people think that when you get married now youâre one, which is totally untrue. Youâre still gonna be individuals and you have to respect each otherâs individuality and each otherâs space, which is very important, while at the same time create synergies here and there throughout your life,â he explained.
âYou also have to like each other, which a lot of people donât understand,â he continued. âYou have to make sure you connect with that person in terms of their values and principles. The basic foundation that youâre made out of has to be aligned.â
Kodjoe also adds that the important key to his marriage is that he and Ari-Parker give each other space when needed.
âWe give each other space to f-ck up,â he says. âWe live in this very instant gratification environment where everything has to be right now, and if it doesnât work out [you leave].âh
âWe have to learn how to take a beat, and say OK, you made a mistake, Iâm not gonna run, Iâm going to hear you out, Iâm going to work with you the same way I would want you to help me get through this,â he said.
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