It is always fun to reminisce about the past. There are certain things that tend to stick in everyone’s minds as we all make the journey from childhood to adulthood about our parents. Whether it is a certain perfume that mom used, or the way dad tossed the football on a Sunday afternoon, we all have those few memories about our parents that will last forever.
As you are creating memories with your little ones, here are a few things for you to think about as you embark on the journey of raising your children and helping form special memories of your relationship.
1. The fun times that you shared. Your kids may not remember every detail about every birthday gift they received or every Christmas present that was under the tree, but they will remember certain things about the fun times that you shared together. There’s no rhyme or reason as to what will stick out in their memories but try and create fun moments that will make them smile. Whether it is being silly and dancing to your favorite song in the middle of the kitchen or whether it is something simple as enjoying a favorite game show together and paying along. Try and make every moment a special moment. You don’t need money to always have fun.
2. When mom/dad put the phone down just for me. In this day an age, it seems like everyone has a permanent tether to their hands with a smartphone at the end of it. Whether you are doing work, looking at the news, or simply watching your favorite Netflix show, we are always plugged in. Children want your undivided attention. So, take a few minutes to put the phone down and let them have it! They will feel like they have all of you and not just a part. It is special times like these when children really notice that you are 100% theirs.
3. The positive words of reinforcement. Of course, you are your child’s biggest cheerleader, but do they know it? Positive reinforcements and words/statements like “I am proud of you,” or “You are my Rockstar,” or “I am blessed to have you in my life,” make more of a positive impact on your children than you may think. Even though they subconsciously know these things, let them hear it from time to time. Phrases and words like these affect their self-worth helping them to grow into a well-adjusted positive adult. Your words are something that they will remember for a lifetime, so choose them carefully.
4. How you handle the tough moments in life. Life is not always going to be a cakewalk but how navigate the situations is what your child will remember the most. Remember, your children are looking to you for guidance. How you handle what life throws at you is setting the stage for them to follow suit. Make them feel safe, confident, and like they can handle the hard times because if mom/dad can do it, so can they.