Co-parenting is not easy but Mashonda Tifrere is making it work. The singer recently told Global Grind readers that the key to divorcees parenting beyond broken vows is concentration.
“Focus on your children—and your children only,” said Mashonda. “Yes, this can be very difficult. It means that your own emotions—any anger, resentment, or hurt—must take a back seat to the needs of your children. Admittedly, setting aside such strong feelings may be the hardest part of learning to work cooperatively with your ex, but it’s also perhaps the most vital. Co-parenting is not about your feelings, or those of your ex-spouse, but rather about your child’s happiness, stability, and future well-being.”
Tifrere went on to say that parents should never express their anger about their former spouse or partner to their kids. “It’s okay to be hurt and angry, but your feelings don’t have to dictate your behavior. Instead, let what’s best for your kids—you working cooperatively with the other parent—motivate your actions…Friends, therapists, or even a loving pet can all make good listeners when you need to get negative feelings off your chest. Exercise can also be a healthy outlet for letting off steam,” explained the singer.
Mashonda and producer Swizz Beatz wed in 2004, and finalized their divorce in 2010. The have one child, Kaseem David Dean Jr., together.