Former model Veronica Webb has a goal set out for this week: she hopes not to yell at her daughters Leila Rose Robb(R) and Molly Blue Robb(L). In the following essay, Veronica talks about how she wishes to discipline her kids without spanking or yelling at them.
A Quiet House written by Veronica Webb:
“…This week my goal with my kids is not to yell. I don’t hit my kids unless they do something dangerous that would be life threatening like walk into a busy street. I was spanked often, as a child, and yelled at regularly by both teachers and parents as a means of control. I was a sassy kid, but not a troublemaker. Now that my kids are five and half and seven years old, the chickens have come home to roost, as it were, they are quick to scold and yell at each other as well as their peers. Their words come quick and they’re clever and cutting. It hurts to hear it because I know where it comes from – me.
Momma teaches this every time I get frustrated and criticize them for being a little late getting ready for school. When they’re fussy at the end of a long school day and want to do something other than getting straight home to do homework and do their chores. I don’t want to build or enforce discipline in their character by “bullying” my kids with a seriously mean tone of voice while I bark out doomsday scenarios like “ What’s wrong with you guys? Who do you think you are? You never listen? Do you even care what I say to you? You’re not helping. You’re going to repeat kinder garden etc…” If you’re a mom you know what this escalates into… You download your frustration, anger and bad mood into the little hearts and minds you’re in charge of, which might quiet the down one of many the mini rebellions moms deal with moment to moment, but does yelling teach them how to deal with their relationships and their lives in a positive, peaceful and productive manner?”