Singer Solange is featured in the latest issue of HoneyMagazine. In the issue, Solange talks about the “essential key to motherhood” and her five-year-old son Julez. Check out snippets from the interview:
On her advice to other moms:
“I think balance is the essential key to motherhood. I think it’s a really hard rhythm to find, but if you learn how to capture it, it makes the rewards so beautiful. I try not to ever be away from him unless he’s with his dad. We have equal custody, so we work together on it, but it definitely gets hard when I have all these opportunities coming at me. I have to say no to a lot of things because at the end of the day I know that no matter how many awards or accolades or praise or money I get, the one thing that really is a judgment of me is what kind of mother I am. A lot of people feel like their life has to stop because of the child, and they have to let go of their interests. You definitely have to compromise some of them, but I’ve been really blessed. When I went to see Grace Jones, Julez was right there with me. Julez is right there with me when I go for my bike rides. And when I go on tour, he’s with me. And I feel so blessed to be in the position to do that.”
On how Julez feels about his mom not being the average mommy:
“…I don’t think he realized it in the beginning, but the good thing is that he’s humble about it. If I ever see that he’s not, he will get snapped back before he can blink his eyes.”
On being a disciplinarian:
“It definitely has its challenges because there are some things that I’m a lot more strict about. I won’t let him own a video game. No TV in the bedroom — he can only watch a few hours a day. I’m really strict about what he eats. He comes back and tells me these stories about the Wii, and I have to be like ‘It’s just a Wii, calm down.’ I think it’s a good balance. I feel really good that [Julez’ dad and I are] able to do it together because there are some things that I don’t understand, and as much as I try to get out there and throw the football, I always get hit in the head with it.