Dear Mama,
I am stressed out to the max. I am a married woman with two children, but it feels like i have three children. My husband isn’t at all helpful with the kids and i am at my wit’s end trying to raise these kids on my own. I am a stay home mom and my husband works, but most of the time i wish i were in his shoes. He doesn’t seem to understand that i work while am at home. My children are ages 1 and 3. Yes, they are a handful and sometimes i feel like locking myself in my room and never coming out. I do love my children, don’t get me wrong. It’s just that i am so stressed and in addition, i don’t feel appreciated.
What should i do?

Sincerely,
Stressed to the Tress

Dear Stressed To the Tress, take a deep breath. I understand your pain and so many women can identify with all that you are going through. As a mother, you probably feel the need to want to take care of everyone, but what you need to know is that you can’t possibly take care of anyone unless you take care of yourself first. Your husband is a grown man and needs to share in the responsibilities of raising your children. However, he may not acknowledge how much work you’re doing because you don’t allow him to. Do me a favor? Help your husband to walk a day  in your shoes. On a day that he is not working, just leave him and the children alone.  Do not make it is easy for him. Don’t cook, clean, or do anything; let your husband spend a few hours in your shoes. If he doesn’t appreciate you after that experience, then please seek counseling thereafter.

Sincerely,
Mama

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